This Sunday, November 3rd, marks the 2 year anniversary of the beginning of the end for Chad Holtz. This was the day of my youngest son’s birthday, but even more importantly, it was the day a friend dropped me off at Pure Life Ministries and, though I didn’t know it at the time, the beginning of my new life. In a very real way, me and my son Brody now share a birthday.
Since that time I have come to know freedom over sexual sin and it’s bondage in a way that 20 years of effort never provided. This freedom has changed everything for me, from restoring my family, my dead marriage, my ministry, and most importantly, a real, authentic, abiding relationship with Jesus Christ.
It’s my desire to see other men and women set free – truly free! – from “every weight, and sin which clings so closely” (Heb. 12:1) so that we all can bring honor to the God who has made this freedom possible, and experience the refreshment that only Jesus can bring to our souls when they are his (Acts 3:19-20).
The greatest hindrance to your freedom, as it was to mine, from sexual sin is hanging on to the lie that masturbation (self-gratification) is OK. This is the door which if left cracked open, Satan will always find a way to lure you out. It is imperative that this door be slammed shut, and sealed off for good.
I used to laugh at this because I thought it not only impossible but unnecessary. And yet, even as I mocked, I did not know freedom. In my defense of gratifying myself I was unwittingly admitting that I was bound to something, or idolized something, which I could not and would not surrender! I could not say with Paul, “I discipline my body, and keep it under control, lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified” (1 Cor. 9:27).
How well do you discipline your body?
For the sexual addict, to not do something first about masturbation is akin to the person with unhealthy lungs saying they will alter their diet and exercise while continuing to smoke.
So on this week of my anniversary of experiencing nearly 2 years of freedom from self-gratification, I want to share with you how you can do it, too. On this blog is a series of 4 posts which address this issue, and I’m sharing them all here in one easy-to-find post for your ease of reference. Parts 1 and 2 deal with answering the question: Why is this wrong? Part 3 offers practical steps to eliminate temptation in your life and part 4 offers practical steps for adding Christ to your life. You don’t want to “put off” without “putting on” something which will strengthen and nourish you.
While these post deal specifically with self-gratification, the principles at play here would suit anyone struggling with other hang-ups and habits. You might need to adjust some of the practical steps to suit your struggle, and I pray the Holy Spirit will guide you in that process.
I pray this helps you as it has helped me and others, and may God grant you the strength and the will to do His good pleasure (Phil. 2:13).